I need tips for my hair. First my hair is curly (sometimes tight curls and sometimes loose) and its hard to tamed at points.  I dont wash it everyday because if I do it dries out but when i dont wash it and go to sleep I wake up with a bunch of frizzy flyaways hair all over the place. 
I also use deep in conditioner but that doesnt seem to fix the frizzyness and the messy look. I do fix my bangs with a straightner in the morning though

Any tips on how to keep hair looking soft and natural and fix frizzy flyaways? 

(Oh~ and I was thinking of cuting my hair to my neck or above the sholders atleast. )

  I love my hair sometimes..but after sometimes.. it drives me insane 

Well, I had the same problem as you had, and the problem was fixed after cutting my hair short, and now it isn't frizzy anymore ^^

(I can't suggest any products because they didn't work for me)

I also have the same problem but I use hair mousse specially for curls in the morning (and I also use this on my hair when it's wet after showering) and also a product from fructis garnier for curls, a bowl with a spray dispenser. I find that they work quite well :)

I have pretty curly hair but I usually wear it in braids or buns so I don't have to deal with it.

I've had similar problems. I usually straighten my hair to make it easier to manage. However I sometimes like my natural curls. Cutting your hair does sometimes help. There aren't a lot of products that work really well except Chi, it's expensive but works pretty well.

Wow! thanks guys :)
I think im going to try out chi i heard it was pretty good too

Another question:

Is it odd to have layered curly hair or would that just make it worst to get frizzy? 

I  personally don't like layered curly hair  ^^

But that's just me.

buahahaha this is my realm of expertise!! (well now it is anyways...)

due to me roaming in rickys(a beauty supply store) about every week i found 2 products that do wonders!!!

#1 moisterize once a week(or more) with L'oreal ...something another.... its about $14 for the bigger one theres also a shampoo to go along with it but I havent tried it

#2 when you get out of the shower from washing your hair use a gel to keep it from frizzing. I use Curls goddess glaze ;D "Curls" also has a line of products...but this is the only one ive used

the curls gel REALLY made a diffrence with the flyaways and the frizz i really suggest it and its not that expensive about $14, and it lasted me 3 monthes, I use it every other day

Are you putting hair mask on your hair before you sleep? Applying that can help to tamed your hair the next morning. I also had the same problem with you but when I did this trick my hair gradually changed and it looks healthier now.