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Making Long Distance Relationships Work
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Dec 23 2011, 5:59 pm - by Eevee


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There was a thread before asking if we think ldr will work... My response was "for me it could never work"...
Well, guess who is nom nom nomming her words.
I'm now in a relationship with a 10 hour time difference =_= So how about a thread for tips on maintaining some normalcy for distant couples~
So for people in this situation, what do you do?
I just:
Skype - obvious I guess but it's hard with time dfference sometimes. Sometimes we have skype meals together, he's eating breakast while I have dinner ^^
Sending surprise letters or packages.
Send photos of me going out ^^


Dec 24 2011, 12:24 am - Replied by: ameliecafe


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I don't have any advice to give you from personal experience, but here are some links to people asking questions about LDRs. Although the questions are not exactly the same as your situation, but people did have some interesting suggestions. 


http://ask.metafilter.com/201835/How-to-give-a-hug-from-far-away

http://ask.metafilter.com/202515/how-to-survive-longdistance-neediness

ask.metafilter.com is full of questions like this, just use the search bar. 


Hope it helps at least a little bit!


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Dec 24 2011, 1:36 am - Replied by: Lolita_Tobi


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I've only had one long distance relationship, but that is a different case because even if it wasn't long distance it wouldnt have worked out, it was a terrible relationship to begin with.


However, I think a long distance relationship can work if you both want it to. I think it's adorable with your breakfast/dinner skype dates ^-^

Dec 24 2011, 4:33 am - Replied by: nanna95K


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i´ve never had a long distance realasionship before (or a realationship at all ^^´) but one of my best friends have one. shes in sweden and he is in america. they send text meseges to echother when ever they get the chanse and send photos to echoters and i think they travel to echother during the summer breaks or when they have money... i dont know so much about it couse i don´t ask -.- but i think the others are right. if you both want it to work then it probably will :3 and it can be good to be creative so you can find out more and difrent random ideas to met ecother and more.  :P

Dec 24 2011, 11:16 am - Replied by: Eevee


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Ya, maybe making it 'work' isn't the best wording, but making it more normal. XD


Dec 24 2011, 12:27 pm - Replied by: Kemeah


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The now hubby and I survived on Skype, facebook, and snail mail for about a year. We were only one time zone apart, but we were on oppisite work scheduals, he'd usually call me after I had already gone to bed.

It feels odd, but it becomes "normal" after a while. Honestly the hardest part was other people giving us crap for being in a long distance relationship.

Dec 24 2011, 2:02 pm - Replied by: TeeterDance


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I had a 2 hour time difference relationship, not as extreme as yours obviously but it's still far. I think what made it normal is that we accepted it as how things had to be for a while. Having normal conversations and talking about useless things made it feel better because it takes your mind away from the fact they are far away. 

Dolly and tea ~♥
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Dec 24 2011, 4:11 pm - Replied by: Lumiina


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I am a bit extreme with my relationship and maintaining it.

So we're mostly on skype 24/7 practically, and sleep on mic too. Of course we're not when we have to go somewhere but...during the time we are home we are in voice, and then when he's at work he texts me. Once I start going to classes I won't be able to maintain the texting though - without a cell phone... but this is how i've always done my LDR. It's dangerous with phonebills but skype computer to computer is free so it works out lovely. Breaking mics really suck though.

During the time I was broken up with Max, I dated someone who lives in Florida so there was a 2 hour difference in time, and my best friend is in PA so there is a 3 hour difference.

It just kinda ends up altering your sleep times to spend the most time together... and then if you can't, then just gotta be strong.


Letters, packages, lots of photos and lots of phone calls. If I had a webcam I would use that too, to make to feel less distant.


NOW, I learned that playing an MMO really kills the lonelyfor me, somehow...

Just seeing them there beside me in game makes me feel tons closer. 

 Just like me
They want to be
 Close to you


Jan 11 2012, 1:53 am - Replied by: kitten


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If you're in a ldr,you should give your significant other 101% of your trust since you don't see him/her that often. Plus communication is they key for it to work out.

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Jan 11 2012, 10:23 am - Replied by: LEGO-SAN


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I waited for 5 years for i could be with my husband but back then we not married it was hard.
I chat almost every day but it hard for UK and Japan different time zones so he would stay up late.
The only thing i i can do to make it work is trust and and know he loves me.
Also wait for him to come to UK but that was once a year.
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Jan 11 2012, 12:52 pm - Replied by: Clare


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Organise surprises for them. If you know anyone in the area, co-ordinate special stuff for him every now and again to show you've noticed stuff he's into and want him to enjoy it even though you're not there. Remember it's actually not that far away (knowing I was only 2 days from home was a big encouragement for me this year as an exchange student). Make videos! If skyping is complicated at times, just record videos of you talking to him about your day and stuff, so he can watch them when he has time and stuff. Video your daily life too. If something funny happens, make a video about it or video it as it happens.

There must be more than this provincial life
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