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My friend is a lolita hater. What should I do?
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It's true. There are people in this world that actually HATE lolitas. And my friend is one.
I was looking at lolita clothes online while she was next to me. She said, "How on earth can someone wear this in public? They'll look like idiots."
She knows how much I like lolita. She goes on to say that, "Nina, I know you like it... But it looks weird. This kind of stuff should be drawn, not worn by anyone in real life. The people who wear it look like freaks."
This really isn't the first time she's said stuff like this to me. I've told her I bought lolita dresses and accessories and wore them in public, and she just laughed. Apparently she thinks lolita is a joke?
What should I do when she says things like this to me? Should I even bother being her friend? She makes me feel uncomfortable when she says my interests are a big joke to her. Oh, and after she said all of these things to me, she asked me to do a favor for her. wtf.
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Zeruda wrote:
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I would break up with her...
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:) I'm not trying to complain about this subject; I really don't like complaining. But you have no idea how many times I've tried to lost contact with her. I've known her for 10+ years. She's always, always, always been like this to me. She steals things from me. She lies. And then she insults me (as seen above).
My point being, if it were that easy, I wouldn't have made this topic right now. :s
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Dec 12 2009, 4:50 pm - Replied by: Zeruda
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lovepill0 wrote:
:) I'm not trying to complain about this subject; I really don't like complaining. But you have no idea how many times I've tried to lost contact with her. I've known her for 10+ years. She's always, always, always been like this to me. She steals things from me. She lies. And then she insults me (as seen above).
My point being, if it were that easy, I wouldn't have made this topic right now. :s
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It's weird because i spoke with mys sister (on phone) about this like 5 minutes ago :S Some people seems impossible to get rid of. They keep follow you your entire life! I'll tell you my secret, I moved :P
No, seriously, if she's stealing, lying and make you feel bad about yourself you really need to get her out of your life. She has no respect for you at all. She doesn't respect who you are so she really doesn't deserve you as a friend.
Tell her to leave you alone - serious. Don't reply to her sms and emails and just ignore her when she says hi. I had a little irritating stalking friend for a while taking advantage in my lolita wardrobe. I was super nice to her even if she annoyeed me, but then i just had enough and i THREW her out of my life and made it CRYSTAL CLEAR to her that she is NOT WELCOME in my sight! She havn't bothered me ever since :)
I think you need to do something drastic like that too. It's always hard when the come back begging, because you feel sorry for them, but sometimes you have to be tough. For your own sake. You are super sweet and elegant, Lovepill0, you really don't need someone who's telling you you're looking stupid, cus you're not. I bet you're the prettiest girl for miles. And even if people have different opinions, and she might think lolita is too much, there is no need to disrespect a friend. Ever.
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Aw that's so horrible. I have a couple people who think that it looks a bit ridiculous(one of them being my own mother) And I know how hard some people are to get rid of. I don't think she should be called your friend if she is that mean to you :(
If she lies, and steals and insults you, then let her know that you flat out do not wish to associate with her anymore. If you tell her this, and she knows exactly how you feel, she will be less likely to hang around you.
I'm really sorry she feels like that about Lolita, but remember: You dress like that because it makes you feel good and you like it, not because someone told you to :) If she doesn't like it, then so what? You like it and that's what matters!
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Dec 12 2009, 7:02 pm - Replied by: Himechi
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I agree with Zeruda. I've dealt with ex's like this, and our mutual friends attacking me. I deleted them all off my friends lists and email contacts, and whenever they called or sent me emails or anything, I deleted the messages without opening them. You really do have to be strong for yourself when it comes to things like this. It's okay to be selfish if it comes to your own well-being. It took me SO long to see this and practice it, and even still I forget sometimes, but...it really is the only way. You can really only ever look out for yourself in situations like this. Good luck, girl. You'll make the best choice, I'm sure ^_^ 
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I think you should like just really talk to her and tell her that she should respect your style. I mean it's impossible for everyone that are friends with one another to like the same exact thing! My best friend is into horses and the country setting I'm more city inspired. She listens to country ,but I listen to JRock/Jpop all the time. She knows this yes, and she respects what I'm into as I do to her. We also have a totally different style! But we have managed to be best of friends since forever! Just because she doesn't like certain things, doesnt mean she has to always blow it up in your face or behind your back. If you talk to her about how you feel, and she doesnt care or whatever, then she isn't a real friend... She should respect your likes/dislikes as you do hers I have spoken 
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When someone cannot accept you for you, then they are not a real friend. If Lolita is a part of you and she just laughs at it, insults it, and moves on- there is nothing close to a friend there. No friend should ever do that. She can say her opinion but she shouldn't be so mean about it. She should be able to accept that you like it, wear it, and love it. My friends wear some things I think are absolutely retarded but I just nod my head and move along- and trust me, I am a soul sucking bitch. My friends all call me a *beep* but I love them and they love me. I would never tell them something so hurtful without it being a joke and having them laugh along with me. When it hurts, I shut up. She doesn't respect Lolita, she doesn't respect your choice, she doesn't respect you. That's it. So, either giver her the same treatment or- stop being friends with you. Here, wear lolita in front of her. If she insults you, to hell with her. She doesn't matter if she is willing to bring you down because of a FASHION.
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