I've had some real problems lately with strangers who wants to talk to me. Most of them are old foreign men who wants to "meet" (a.k.a. having sex)

I'm getting really upset about this.

Method 1. Pretend to have a nice conversation.
I talk to them nicely, tell them I'm not intrested, that I live in a relationship and wants to get married with my boyfriend. (even tho i find them offensive and gross I keep being polite.

What happened?
Very inaffective method. They'll get encourage by my nice behavior and sweet smile and mistakes my nice manners for a playing hard to get game. They keep talking, keep trying to convince me that we can meet without my boyfriend know, they want to come visit me at work, they have no respect at all for me saying no. I always get very offended by their behavior.





Method 2. Walk away.
As soon as one of these people approaches saying something you dislike - walk away.

What happened?
Very effective method. No room for a discussion and you made it obviously clear to them you are not interested in them or any of their disguisting suggestions. I just learned about this method, and I have realized I have been way to nice to stranger in my previous meetings (just because i wanted to fulfill my nice behavior lolita ethics). But walking way is not rude, they're the ones who were rude in the first place and they don't deserve your time when they can't even respect you.





Do you have any tricks to avoid creeps?





(I've noticed my pink wig is a creep magnet >_<)

Other methods:

Just ignore them totally.  Sometimes, its better off being mean to them rather than opening up and becoming an ideal target.  They tend to want to get reactions from you, so less reaction the better.

I read this somewhere on the internet (how to know a stalker behaves ~ something like that)

Most stalkers acts are planned.  They want to get to know you, be friends.  First signs of stalkers: They come up with a very strong character (overly friendly), you see them everywhere (where its just not a coincidental anymore), and they ask too much personal question.

Here's a link I found online which is very helpful: http://www.ehow.com/how_4576949_stop-a-stalker.html

Keep walking and if they keep following, I find a woman and point and say, "That's my mom over there. She is about to take me to my special classes."

 

Then leave.

 

How scary! I am lucky enough to live in a sheltered neighborhood. I have had some odd experiences at conventions, where a 'photographer' wanted to take me into a room to take my picture. I politely turned him down because my friends were urging me to go outside with them. I found out later that there was no photo-booth at the convention D:

<sub>I have a problem like this, also.  My problem, however, is at my school.  There is a guy who eats lunch with me and some of my friends (none of my friends like him at all); this guy is weird and when my friends joke around about something, he says he will "wring their necks if they ever say anything like that again".  After school,  I get out a period before everyone else.  And convenient for him, so does he.  He tries talking to me after school.  I just ignore him and pretend I can't hear what he's saying to me, but he always gets closer to me when I pretend I can't hear him.  I move away.  When I don't say anything to him, he tells me, "Nina, you're insecure and depressed.  You need to talk to me before I graduate.  I want to remember you.  I want you to remember me."  He even tried to tell me one time how "I am so depressed that I'm going to commit suicide one day" --  Which isn't at ALL true.

I can't stand this guy.  I want him to leave me alone.  He follows me everywhere, even into some of my classes.  I tell him to leave me alone.  Is there any other way I can deal with this?</sub>

lovepill0 wrote: I have a problem like this, also.  My problem, however, is at my school.  There is a guy who eats lunch with me and some of my friends (none of my friends like him at all); this guy is weird and when my friends joke around about something, he says he will "wring their necks if they ever say anything like that again".  After school,  I get out a period before everyone else.  And convenient for him, so does he.  He tries talking to me after school.  I just ignore him and pretend I can't hear what he's saying to me, but he always gets closer to me when I pretend I can't hear him.  I move away.  When I don't say anything to him, he tells me, "Nina, you're insecure and depressed.  You need to talk to me before I graduate.  I want to remember you.  I want you to remember me."  He even tried to tell me one time how "I am so depressed that I'm going to commit suicide one day" --  Which isn't at ALL true. I can't stand this guy.  I want him to leave me alone.  He follows me everywhere, even into some of my classes.  I tell him to leave me alone.  Is there any other way I can deal with this?

lovepill0 wrote: I have a problem like this, also.  My problem, however, is at my school.  There is a guy who eats lunch with me and some of my friends (none of my friends like him at all); this guy is weird and when my friends joke around about something, he says he will "wring their necks if they ever say anything like that again".  After school,  I get out a period before everyone else.  And convenient for him, so does he.  He tries talking to me after school.  I just ignore him and pretend I can't hear what he's saying to me, but he always gets closer to me when I pretend I can't hear him.  I move away.  When I don't say anything to him, he tells me, "Nina, you're insecure and depressed.  You need to talk to me before I graduate.  I want to remember you.  I want you to remember me."  He even tried to tell me one time how "I am so depressed that I'm going to commit suicide one day" --  Which isn't at ALL true. I can't stand this guy.  I want him to leave me alone.  He follows me everywhere, even into some of my classes.  I tell him to leave me alone.  Is there any other way I can deal with this?

Omg, that is soo creepy! I don't know what to do, he's totally stupid :( Some people just never listen :(

God I also have a problem with stalkers! They just come up and talk to me when I'm waiting for the buss and stuff! Gladly I often have a friend with me to deffend me when they are getting to "close"! I have a problem with beeing rude to people! I can't be rude! So I often end up with the longest conversation with them T___T and I have many scary stalkers on this one site. they are sending creepy messages about what they want to do with me and stuff T___T So I usually block them or report them... but still! And old men can come up to me and just say: You are very beautiful. okay so I'm flattered but still! they are older than my dad!!!! It's gross! can't they just leave me alone!?!?

I had this creepy experience a while ago. A man around 25 stops me and says that I look lovely. He asks me if he can take a  pic with me. I say "ok" (even if i don't like it i mostly say okay... better they ask than taking pictures behind my back and btw he had a crappy cellphonecamera, seriously, quality sucks anyway ^^)

However... He got a cellphone in his hand, he looks around. I think "is he going to ask a stranger to take the pic??" It seems he wanted to be in the pic WITH me when he asked. So i wait and see what he will do. It looks like hes trying to catch somone whos passing by. And suddenly there's a fat old 50-55 year old man next to me (way too close!), and the guy takes the pic. Damn, I was so chocked!

Probably his dad or something. I ran of. I felt humiliated. Like some freaking object his dirty dad poses with! Yuck!

OMG! That's horrible! O.O I had a simillar experience when I went to stockholm once... some fat old foreign men commes up to me and my friend and wants to take a picture with ous. We say yes since we are pretty used to it (all the camera crazy japanese tourists) and then one of the puts their hand around my waist so I have to stand really close!!!!! I didn't want to, but what could I do?? then they switch and the other guy does the same... after they left all I could do was laugh it away...

I don't have any stalkers as of now but there is this old guy in my neiborhood who makes lewd comments to my twin brother and one of his friends. He has been reported to the police but they can't prove anything.