As most of you know, in April my husband asked for a separation and we are currently residing in different homes. Right now I am still madly in love with him and wish we could work things out and keep our marriage alive. He says that he loves me but isnt IN love with me anymore.....we still talk all the time and have 'maritals' every now and then...what I'm wondering is if i should start squashing my feelings for him or keep fighting....as it looks right now, we are not getting back together...and it's killing me...should I just become friends? i dont know!

i think you might have to face that your marriage is over... you two should have done something about your marrige a long time ago already... I'm afraid it too late for him now.. :/

and well, he's kind of stupid if he belives he must end a marrage every time "in love" turns to love. then he will have to re-marry ever second year. I'm no "in love" with my bf either, but that doesn't mean i don't want to spend the rest of my life with him.

I agree with Zeruda. My best friends parents are going through this also, and there is honestly nothing her mom can do that would be healthier for her than to let go and move on. I wish you the best of luck however, and hope you find someone else worthy of your love :)

yeah, i agree with penguiy. It's no point in fighting for someone who doesn't care for you.. you deserve a better man, Do-chan :)

my fear is that i CANT find someone else....i dont wanna grow old alone :(

Do-Chan wrote: my fear is that i CANT find someone else....i dont wanna grow old alone :(

That is defenitely not true! You are a wonderful person, and your husband once fell in love with you! So will new people!

You know, I've had several relationships. Av every time I end them I always say "I don't expect to find anyone as good as you, but this relationship is over". And every single time I have found someone better than the previous one :) I'm so surprised every time! ^^ You may be selective :) there are lots of guys that would fall for you, and you can ditch them if you don't like them back :) I am one billion percent sure you won't live your life all alone ^^

the way guys are now a days they wouldnt want someone who looks like i do....idk sometimes i feel that maybe i was meant to be alone....man i'm such a downer lol....i understand that my husband has been holding me back and making me feel just horrible about myself....i want someone like Kenshin from Rurouni Kenshin lol too bad that's not real life huh?

i suggest you start looking for your kenshin :) I'm sure he's out there, he just haven't found you yet! :) In the meantime you can turn into the do-chan you wanna be and want him to meet! ^^v

( i started to search for Gaara 5 years ago, lol)

I agree with Zeruda i'm afraid.

I know It's easier said than done but If you carry on this way he might start to think he can just run back to you when it suits him and you are worth more than that dear!

I know that your afraid you might not find someone else but if I were you I wouldn't be concerned with this......it's time to rediscover YOU!!!!

Take some time to do the things YOU enjoy, go where YOU want to go etc, go see your friends, get a new hobby etc.

If you don't take time for you then the next relationship will just end up as a rebound and you'll end up unhappy.

I know you are going through a difficult time but try to see it as your rebirth.

*Hugs*

Right i really dont know if you have any kids ...am sort of new here:P Sorry to here bout your husband i have mixed feelings as i believe its never too late.Every marriage is worth fighting for tilll the end.You dont want to end it and feel you could have done something different.It takes two to mess it up but also takes two to rebuild;.

There is a movie i think you should check out online its called FIREPROOF....or the book which is called the Love dare(may save your marrige).

From what you says about him making you feel like you are worthless ....well i dont think he would be the sort of person you want to be with all your life.You deserve better no matter what you think....there is someone out there for you:) Be strong and i hope he comes around.However dont give him the impression he can use you and leave when ever he wants:) Peacexxx