I need you help you guys.  I wanted to ask on how can my parents to stop comparing me with other people?? This is driving me insane and I hate it when they talk about how I am dumb, stupid and they wanted me to be like those people.  I try talking to them to not to compare me with other people and they tell me that they are "just" setting examples for me so that I wont be like the other people.  But really, they are just teasing me on what I am doing and they support my ideas when I see something that I like to do and they just complain that it's not me and stuff.  So, I need your tips on how can my parents to stop complaining me and just to be quiet??

Compare them back! :D

 

Dad: Why don't you have the highest grade in math?

You: Why aren't you president? ^^

 

Haha, it's worth a try :D

 

But really, your parents must accept who you are, cuz you are unique!!! ^^

 

Good luck and many huggies

 

Issy-chan

i do, i told my parents on why they arent helping me with school work and then i told them to stop comparing and they just laugh at me and saying that they werent and really they are lying to my face and it's not fair

 

yeah, i told them that i am different but really, they think i am crap

 

thank you and thanks for your hugs too

 

dreamlife123

To be honest my mum used to do it when i was younger and i just got angry, youve got to talk to them on their level. I finally said calmly 'I am utterly confused to why you compare me to people, i feel to reach a level in which your satisfied, i need support and constructive criticism from you in order to do this. The people you compare me to have a very strong unit of emotional and  constructive back up, and this is probably why they managed to achieve in such a way. Academic achievement isnt just about studying hard its about self confidence too, so i can believe i can do it. I cannot not do this so if i am being unnecessarily being drained. If you are not prepared to change your attitude towards me like the adult you are, do not expect me to, and leave me to it.' I woulnt let her interrupt me either and i said everything very calmly cause they expect you to get angry and that. Hope this has helped a tiny bit?

My parents do the same, truthfully.. now I just ignore it when they begin comparing me to someone I can't be because I'm really not confident in most of it but thats just me. I bascially told them they should leave me to do it on my own like Ichigo Rose just said, they do still compare me to others, but not as much, so yeah I guess that really does work to a certain extent.. good luck.

i think i will try to talk to them out about it and thanks it did help

Gummi-Bear-07 wrote: My parents do the same, truthfully.. now I just ignore it when they begin comparing me to someone I can't be because I'm really not confident in most of it but thats just me. I bascially told them they should leave me to do it on my own like Ichigo Rose just said, they do still compare me to others, but not as much, so yeah I guess that really does work to a certain extent.. good luck.

 

thank you, and i know what you mean, but now when my parents are comparing me ab out a lot of people, i just get my headphones and just listen to music until they are done talking about me

My parent do this tome too. They constantly compare me to my brother Cade, who is a classified genius while i'm not anything close to a genius, and they don't even realize it. I've told them to stop comparing me to my brother thousands of times but they won't. I've learned to ignore them when they are like that. When they start to compare you to someone, don't get mad at them, leave the room and do something that makes you happy. for me that would be reading, taking a hot bath or shower if you prefer, or draw a picture. Just do something that will calm you down. If you can't leave the room try thinking about something other than concentrating on what their saying. think about something else. It will make you feel better. Good luck!

I think, directing it towards ALL of you girls (and possibly guys), speaking from a parents point of view:

Your parents see a lot of potential in you, but they probably feel like you're not giving it your best effort. They're really not comparing you to anybody. They're just being (I'm gonna get banned for this, I can see it.) insensitive fucktards who are just upset with the "lack of motivation" they think we all have. And, to be honest, it could be true.

Here's my idea; mentally tell them to shut the hell up, but  just still try to keep in mind they're just wondering why you're not doing your best. They don't expect anything from you, they just know you can do better, not for them, but for yourself.

I hear it all the time from my parents, so I've like, memorized every moral in their whining and nagging. >_<

thanks for all your advice about this problem. 

 

@ scullens7: thanks, I think I will try to get out of the room and go somewhere else and do the things that I wanted to do so that I can not think about it

 

@ RainiB: that could be true, but I think it's because they dont push me whenever I am learning something new and they dont help me teach the things that I need and they tell me to either leave it blank or ask the teacher, but I wanted to finish it so that my teacher wont mark me that I didnt do my work. So I always turn to my friends when I need help and they yelll at me for no reason

Sometimes people are like that, they compare for you to be a better person.