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What should I do?
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Jun 05 2010, 6:37 pm - by liltlili


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  • liked this guy for over 5
  • was in the same class as him in his senior year (1 year older than me)
  • became his friend last year
  • never talked to him, only chatted on Facebook
  • known him since I was 8
  • doesn't know I like him
  • No experience

What should I do? (will answer any questions if any)

Jun 05 2010, 7:13 pm - Replied by: FortuneCookies


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Just tell him 
If you keep holding back then you will later regret it
Forever tomboy ^^
Jun 05 2010, 7:19 pm - Replied by: RiikoIzawa


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Well, I'm far from expert on these situations.... but I would suggest gradually becoming more friendly with him; build up trust between you both. If there is no trust, there will be no relationship... not a successful relationship anyway, and I'm sure that's what you would want 
Find something you have in common with him, or find out what he's passionate about and research it?  Talk to him about his interests! Don't feel afraid to start a conversation, and try not to seem nervous, because he doesn't know that you like him and might be put off by nervous or hesitant behaviour.
Don't rush anything! Rushing could cause things to go wrong. Make sure you know him more or less inside-out before you go popping the question, that way you wont get any unpleasant surprises later on 

Hope I've given you a little bit of confidence! 
 
♥ There is never a rainbow without the rain ♥
Jun 06 2010, 7:24 am - Replied by: tsundere


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What Riiko said is VERY IMPORTANT, but I'd like to add a couple more notes...



Get to know him, and just gradually get closer to him.

BEFORE you go and think it's alright to pop the confession, you might wanna spend a couple of weeks dropping slight hints and subtly teasing. Observe his reactions. If he looks like he's interested (and I mean HE ACTUALLY LOOKS LIKE IT, not YOU THINK HE MIGHT BE HIDING IT SECRETLY or something) then by all means, chuck the bait and reel him in.

If he does NOT look interested, then you NEED to get OVER it and MOVE ON.

I need to warn you (from personal experience and observation) that if the above step is not followed properly, then THERE WILL BE A CONSEQUENCE. By that, I mean for you and your emotional health.

On the flip side, if you move on and THEN he realized he likes you, well, it'd kinda be a winner for you, because then YOU get the playing field. ^w^

GOOD LUCK GIRL!

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Jun 06 2010, 1:35 pm - Replied by: liltlili


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I did notice him trying to get my attention before.....
Jun 06 2010, 2:53 pm - Replied by: MaandaaRaae


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Just tell him. You know each other well, it may not work out but at least you tried.

Jun 07 2010, 7:39 am - Replied by: tsundere


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DON'T RUSH IT!

WHATEVER YOU DO DO NOT BE TOO HATSY TO CONFESS!

Trust me, the most adrenaline-filled part of this is GETTING to tell him. Do what I say, alright? You need to be a little snaky. Lay some bait around, stuff like 'accidentally' falling or doing something slightly out of your character around him to surprise him. Maybe even talk about another guy around him. Whatever you can to induce signals.

Hang out with him more often, go to movies with him and use excuses like "None of the girls wanna see it with me, so will you?" ((Note: This only works if the movie you're seeing is something that you and your friends wouldn't see... for example Nightmare on Elm Street, or Inception or Prince of Persia)) Find BELIEVABLE and normal methods of hanging out with him like going to a video game arcade (if he's into that) or something that you BOTH would like. Don't forget about conversation!

Always good to have some awesome jokes, anecdotes and stories lying around your vocabulary that you can pull out. GUYS LIKE FUNNY AND SMART GIRLS.

These types of things should help in pushing this guy to show more and more whether he likes you or not.

Set the bait and reel in slowly.

Set the bait and reel in slowly.

Who knows? Maybe if you let this go on, he'll be the one who ends up confessing to you!

:D

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Jun 07 2010, 9:03 pm - Replied by: liltlili


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There's just one problem.....I'm extremely shy. And never spoke to any guys except little kids and family or I chat to them on Facebook.
Jun 09 2010, 2:03 am - Replied by: tsundere


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Not to sound totally rude and brutal, but saying you're shy is a really lame excuse not to talk to a guy who you like and consider a friend. In my opinion, if you can't work up the courage to get over yourself and at least ask a "How are you today?", then you don't love him enough.

I'm just saying...

I mean, if you really like him, then you wanna be with him. If you wanna be with him, you wanna at least have the decency to hold up a normal conversation.

DO NOT LET YOUR SHYNESS STOP YOU FROM BEING WITH THE GUY YOU LIKE.

If you do, it just shows everyone that you have a very weak will.

And it shows that guy you don't love him enough to at least try and pursue him.

Yeah...

I'm just saying.

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Jun 09 2010, 11:01 am - Replied by: liltlili


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It doesn't matter if he doesn't know.
Jul 18 2010, 3:06 pm - Replied by: neonchan


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I agree with tsundere, it's not like as if the boy you like will come up to you one day and randomly start talking to you and I'm not trying to be rude by saying this either. 

Just go for it girl!! ;))
What's crack-a-lacking ya'll? ;D
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